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‘Stealthing’ The Newest Sex Trend Could Soon Become Illegal

The latest bedroom trend doesn’t have to do with a certain position or technique — and it’s not sexy at all.

The disturbing, nonconsensual trend is called “stealthing” and its rise is documented in a report by the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, according to The New York Post. 

Author Alexandra Brodsky argues that “stealthing,” when a man secretly removes his condom in the middle of sex, is a form of sexual assault and should be treated as such.

Even more troubling is the online community Brodsky uncovered, where men encourage other men to “stealth” their partners. These perpetrators — both gay and straight — believe it’s a man’s right to “spread one’s seed.”

“One of my goals with the article, and in proposing a new statute, is to provide a vocabulary and create ways for people to talk about what is a really common experience that just is too often dismissed as just ‘bad sex’ instead of ‘violence,’” Brodsky told the Huffington Post.

However, the new trend could soon be classed as illegal as many experts believe it could be classed as rape, due to the issue of consent.

Ian Kelcey, a Senior Partner in the Criminal Law team at Kelcey and Hall Solicitors, told The Sun:

“If the other party made it a strict condition that they only wanted sex if it was safe, it is possible the courts could construe such activity, post-removal of the condom, as being rape,We are still waiting for a case to come to court on this point but I think that is a possibility.”

He added:

“The other consequence is that if the woman were to catch a sexually transmitted disease it could be deemed to be a serious assault. Therefore it could be a very heavy price to pay for a moment of enhanced sexual gratification namely prison, sex offenders register etc. The second issue is that if the man in the course of heterosexual activity gets a woman pregnant he could end up paying a very heavy price financially in child support or maintenance.”

According to the Huffington Post,  in the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law report a doctoral student who works at a rape crisis hotline. noted that she was receiving more and more calls about women being “stealthed”, saying:

“Their stories often start the same way. I’m not sure if this is rape, but…’” They all felt violated but “didn’t have the vocabulary” to figure out what was happening.

Not only does “stealthing” leave a victim vulnerable to pregnancy or STIs, it causes the same type of emotional, physical and financial harm that stems from other, more clearly defined, violent sex acts.


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